Archive for April, 2014
In the movie Spanglish there is a scene where John Clasky, played by Adam Sandler, has just found out that his wife has been having an affair. As she tried to talk to him about what happened he said to her “I couldn’t hear you, there was a crack in my planet. WOW…that was noisy.”
Have you ever had a crack in your planet? I have. Now understand, this is not just a bad day or finding out a little bad news. This is something that is life altering. Diagnosis of cancer, realizing the person you have placed upon a pedestal is not who you thought they were, being betrayed by someone you trusted, hearing the news that a loved one has tragically died, finding out your spouse has not been faithful, maybe it’s a financial crack. There are many things that cause pain and suffering but to be honest few that cause a crack in our planet. Those things listed above are planet crackers. You could probably add a couple more to that list but not many.
Well what do you do when your planet has been cracked? It is not like you can put a band-aid on it or use glue to fix it, not even duct-tape will work. Let’s be honest a cracked planet is hard to fix and even if you do it will always be scarred. I am an expert in this area, the area of pain and suffering that is, and you are too. Every person on earth is an expert in pain and suffering because we have all experienced it in one way or another and some have more experience with it than others. But I wonder how many of us are really experts in dealing with it? Sometimes we try to put on a “courageous” face and say, rather bitterly inward, “It will all work out.” Sometimes we just “sweep it under the rug” or buy into the philosophy “out of sight, out of mind” – how do you really sweep a cracked planet under the rug or how do you really hide the crack? How about the “comfort” you receive from others, “God has a plan for this.” Oh really?? God has a plan for a cracked planet? I would love to hear someone who throws this in the face of one struggling from keeping the crack from spreading to also tell them out of their infinite wisdom of God what that plan is. Please understand, I believe with all my heart God can use a cracked planet. I do not doubt God one bit. I doubt the one who is acting as though they are God’s mouth piece to relay that message. Some of us get angry at the crack, or at the one that caused the crack, and we allow that anger to spew out onto the offender or many times the innocent. Sometimes we may just try to exist as the thunder of the crack echoes through out our life.
So what do we do?
(Ready for my answer. It is incredibly profound.) I do not know.
Here is why I say I do not know. Just as each of us react to the crack differently, each of us finds healing differently. I do not believe that healing comes in any of the forms of the reactions listed above. They only lead to bitterness, resentment, hypocrisy, anger, depression, etc. I do believe however the one thing every single person with a cracked planet needs to do, first, to begin healing is to acknowledge the crack. After the crack is acknowledged the next thing I believe that must happen is to acknowledge God. Now here is where the healing begins to take on different forms, because God deals with each of us in a special, unique way, so our healing, although comes from One Source, comes in different forms. Some may find healing through written form in God’s love letter to us. Others find healing as we express our worship and praise to a mighty God through song. Many find healing through God’s creation as they walk alone in the “cool of the day” and converse with God. Those of intelligence who have tried to reason out the crack and analyze it may finally find healing by saying “God I just don’t get it but I will listen to Your guidance and learn from what You teach me.”
C.S. Lewis said “God whispers in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.” So again I ask, have you had a crack in your planet? If you want healing, acknowledge the crack and acknowledge God, He is shouting in His megaphone “I love you and I want to mend the crack.” God’s voice is so much louder than the echo of the crack if we just listen.
“The Lord is near the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – David (Ps. 34:18)