Archive for March, 2012


“Don’t judge me!!!”  Ever hear that comment before from someone?  I am sure you have probably more times then you like to remember.  This statement is one that drives me nuts.  One reason it irritates me is because it is simply whining.  But the main reason it irritates me is because people have taken this way out of context.  When people say “Don’t judge me” or “Stop judging” or “You are judgmental” what they are really saying is “I don’t like it when you call me out for something I did or said that is wrong.  I know that it is not right but really don’t call me out for it just keep that to yourself so that I can feel good about me and do what I want.”

Now before you get heated and think of all the arguments you have to prove me wrong let me just say I am not talking about legalistic or hypocritical judging.  I have attended schools and I have known people who judge everybody for what they listen to, how they dress, if they go to the movies, or for saying those four letter words like “crap”, “piss”, or “butt”.  Now for those us who listen to anything other then hymns, classical, or anything that “moves our feet instead of our heart” or for those of us who don’t want to wear anything that covers up anywhere that “the sun doesn’t shine” means all that is exposed is your head and hands, or for those of us who support the soft porn hollywood industry by taking our kids to see “Cars” in the theater, or for those of who need our mouth washed out a couple times a day for saying those forbidden four letter words – well maybe those who judge us for that are right but I am willing to risk it at the expense of not being legalistic.  Nor am I talking about those who use every name in the Bootcamp Drill Sergeant’s Book of Cussing to judge you for saying “freakin”.

When someone is rightly judged they immediately become spiritual and say “Hey doesn’t the Bible say not to judge” or if they are really spiritual they will say “Judge not lest ye be judged”.  But see they miss the point completely.  Yes in Matthew 7 verse 1 Jesus says “Do not judge so that you will not be judged” but see people stop there but when taken in context Jesus is actually saying not to judge hypocritically or legalistically.  When he says to first take the log out of your eye what he means is that we are to be spiritually clean in our own lives, in our own heart before we can tell someone else to get right with God.  People like to ignore verse 5 but let me tell you what it says “You hypocrite, first take the log our of your own eye, AND THEN YOU WILL SEE CLEARLY TO TAKE THE SPECK OUT OF YOUR BROTHER’S EYE.”

Now let me add that I believe this is speaking of a believer judging another individual who claims to know Christ.  We as believers are not to go around with our artillery of Bible verses blasting those who do not believe.  But see we are commanded to hold other believers accountable.  John 7:24 Jesus commands to “judge with righteous judgment”.  Now you can point out many passages in which Paul says not to judge but again you must look at context.  1 Corinthians 5 Paul judges a young man who is having a sexual relationship with his step-mother which was an immorality that was not even among the Gentiles (or pagans).  He actually goes on to say in verses 9-11 that believers should not associate with other believers who practice immorality, who are covetous, who have other gods in their life.  He even says not to associate with a believer who is a drunk.

So what is the point of my rambling?  It is this, we as believers are to hold other believers accountable for how they live if they are going to profess Jesus as Lord.  If we can look into our lives and see we are clean before God then we have been commanded to judge or call out those who are not living right.  Now we must do so with love and discernment but we must take a stand when other brothers and sisters in Christ are bring shame to His name.

So the next time you are about to say “Don’t judge me” think about it.  Is the person who is judging you doing so with a right spirit, are they abstaining from what they are calling you on, and are they doing it in love?  If they are then you may want to listen to their “judgment” it just might bring you back to a right relationship with God or keep you from so awful mistakes.

That is what I believe on judgment.  So don’t judge me okay.